Understanding why your child has an emotional meltdown

We all use 10 neurological processes to learn.  The one we see most children and adults struggle with is their size. Most have been labeled ADHD or ADD.  The size processing skill is the ability to understand and determine the importance or magnitude of a situation or thought.  When a child has a weakness in their size, the result can be what all parents with a child of ADHD or Dyslexia have seen, a meltdown or adhd meltdown.  These temper tantrums can be triggered when a child is 100% focused on an activity or idea.  When that activity or idea is taken away, a child with a weak size will not understand the importance of the situation and an emotional meltdown usually ensues.  


In that moment, nothing else matters to the child.  To them, all that matters is whatever they were thinking about and any interruption to it is a threat.  By not conceptualizing and seeing the big picture, children will focus all their attention on continuing the activity they were engaged in.  This usually comes across as seeing the child or adult as not being able to focus, then getting labeled ADHD or ADD.


This does not necessarily mean that those with magnitude perception problems (SIZE) do not consciously know how much to react to things. It simply means that when things are happening fast or under pressure, there is not always time to consciously analyze the situation. The appropriate magnitude response must be automatic if it is to work consistently. These people will often feel remorse later about the way they reacted to a situation. Their hindsight is based on later conscious analysis. The problem is that until the underlying problem of magnitude perception is corrected they will likely mis-react and feel remorse later as a constant pattern.


A common example of this can be seen by children playing video games.  When they are playing that game nothing else matters.  Trying to get the child to stop and do something else can immediately trigger an emotional meltdown.      At Pheno Brain Training, our program teaches children how to assign an importance or magnitude to a situation or idea.  We have seen drastic results of children going from frequent meltdowns to no meltdowns.  Once that processing skill is strengthened, children can prioritize situations accordingly.  We have heard many success stories from our parents currently going through our program. Emotional meltdowns are one of the leading causes for why parents search out programs like ours to help their child.       


It's not just meltdowns we see from a child having a low size, other symptoms of a low size include:

  • Poor time management
  • Feeling overwhelmed when given more than one task
  • Inability to prioritize
  • Overreacting or underreacting to situations
  • Interpreting how large or small a task is
  • Emotional intensity to determine how serious a situation is
  • Either too insensitive or a highly sensitive child
  • Estimations are just unpredictable and inconsistent
  • Scheduling problems and coordination with other people and other tasks

The quote below has me thinking for an ADHD/ADD person there would be a lot more then nine possibilities for misunderstanding when the person’s size is low. Most ADHD/ADD brains don’t have the neurological connections that it needs to assign the right important to the situation.


“Between what I think I want to say, what I believe I'm saying, what I say, what you want to hear, what you believe you understand, and what you understood, There are at least nine possibilities for misunderstanding." - Francois Garagon


Of the 10 neurological processes, we see a weakness in size more than any other.  Once we strengthen their size, by doing physical and mental exercises through our program. We see a dramatic improvement in both the child and parent's lives. Their new capacity to focus, concentrate, organize and memorize they showed significant improvement in reading comprehension, math, spelling and physical coordination. Their new learning ability has made everyday life much more enjoyable for them -- and those that love them.



It seems like a simple skill most people should have, but it's amazing how often we see a weakness in it.  If this sounds like your child, don't hesitate to call and setup a free evaluation… it only takes one hour.  The time to improve your child's life is now, and we are the solution you're looking for.  

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